tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7968054322253311157.post8102542444118317608..comments2023-08-27T01:19:02.459-07:00Comments on Almost Famous By De's Fault: Dreams and Spankings...Kris M Smithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06701380508405061770noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7968054322253311157.post-5092711207863506712008-05-29T19:28:00.000-07:002008-05-29T19:28:00.000-07:00I can relate to much of what you said about your c...I can relate to much of what you said about your childhood. Not because I was a middle but because my mother was and chaos was always outside her room as well. I still am trying to understand her aloofness and sense of aloneness and your story has helped me with this.<BR/><BR/>I don't agree with you about kids needing to be hit though. No child needs to be hit to teach them about life. We are really one of the last countries who believe this. Most other countries have now outlawed CP because they have recognized that children are people and can be raised without punishment and without violence.<BR/>The more an adult is reactive the more the child is reactive. The more calm an adult is, the more calm a child is. Lessons in life - even the tough ones take going over and over with children. And they do learn. Ironically, children who hurt animals the most are the ones who are hurt themselves. Smack a child and many animals pay the price. Be kind and patient with a child and everyone benefits.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7968054322253311157.post-82629320290810254442007-05-26T07:43:00.000-07:002007-05-26T07:43:00.000-07:00I thrilled you're enjoying the blog! Tell others!...I thrilled you're enjoying the blog! Tell others! If it's a plus for you, it may be for others, as well! Help me get the word out!<BR/><BR/>THANKS! Love ya!Kris M Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06701380508405061770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7968054322253311157.post-56164314326366054122007-05-25T23:34:00.000-07:002007-05-25T23:34:00.000-07:00I often wonder how different Denny would be had he...I often wonder how different Denny would be had he been the first child. But as you said some children had it much better or much worse. I had a hard time in my early 20's with my birth order. I felt that Denny was mom's favorite, and he was. I had a lot of anger towards both of them. But looking back I realize that I was dad's favorite. I finally forgave my mom....and boy did it feel good. I also realized that it wasn't Denny's fault. Then he forgave me for being so mean to him. Becoming a mom helped me understand and come to terms with it. I do my best everyday to make sure my kids don't hate each other or me. Not trying to be their best friend....but guide them....love them, and try very hard to not show favorites. I don't care what a parent says, it is hard to not favor them. I love the girls the same, but for different reasons. One restored my faith in the Lord, and one saved me long enough to find that faith. I know that you know my story of how I came "back" to God. And if you don't I will share it with you this weekend. I so enjoy this blog. Thank you for doing it.<BR/><BR/>Love,<BR/>Dawn<BR/><BR/>PS. I too believe that no child ever was harmed by a swat on the behind for trying to run in the street!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com